Presentation preferences
Choose whether to have an object become highlighted whenever you put the pointer on it, whenever you click it, or never. You can also choose to display a badge for objects that have actions set up in the Properties: Action inspector.
Click the color well to choose a color for the highlight. One good trick is to use selectedControlColor from the Developer palette; this color always matches the highlight color selected in Mac OS X's Appearance preferences. Use the slider to control the thickness of the highlight.